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My boyfriend refuses to marry after 11 years of relationship

Question: After 11 years of relationship my boyfriend refuses to marry. My boyfriend and I have been in a love relationship for 11 years. I even fought for him with my parents for him. I'm with him in all his ups and downs. He made me believe about our marriage, kids and future plans. Now that I have waited for him for 11 years he is refusing to marry me as our parents  are against our marriage. Now I cannot  imagine my life without him and cannot marry anyone else. I told him that I cannot marry anyone else, his reply was that he will marry according to his parents whoever they show. My family is also against me as I supported him all the time from 11 years. I cannot live without him because I am emotionally drained. I want to marry him. How to make him agree for marriage? Can I take any legal actions against him and agree for marriage with me as I have his messages and our photos with me?


You have been emotionally attached to him. But he is not as such. In these circumstances you cannot compel him to marry. He is, however, playing with your emotions but he did not commit any offence. There was no agreement at the beginning of the relationship that marriage would be the consideration for our relations. Hence, you cannot initiate legal action against your boyfriend that he refuses to marry.

You both are major and have the capability to understand the consequences of this kind of relationship. However, he is refusing to marry and saying that his parents will decide this matter but it does not constitute any offence. He is not doing wrong unless there is deception behind sexual relationship. 

Deception or false promise to marriage for sexual relationship is an offence. He has committed rape if he made false promise to marriage only for establishing sexual or bodily relations with you. Rape is an offence punishable under Section 376 of the Indian Penal code. 

For the offence of rape you have to prove that he had obtained your consent on the false promise of marriage. If you fail to prove that you did not know that his promise is false then no offence is made out. He can absolve himself from the offence of rape. 

The facts of your case suggest that there was no sexual relationship between you. Hence, your boyfriend did not commit rape. It is, however, not easy to wipe out all the memories but you cannot take legal action against him for refusing to marry. 

Don’t involve yourself in unnecessary litigation. Avoid filing false first information reports for any cognisable offence. Eventually you have to prove your case otherwise another legal liability will arise against you.

My boyfriend is in relationship with me for 6 years. Now he is not marrying me.

Asked from: Madhya Pradesh

I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this. It’s understandable that you’re feeling frustrated and confused about your relationship. However, it’s important to remember that you cannot force someone to marry you if they’re not ready or willing to do so.

It’s important to have an honest and open conversation with your boyfriend about your concerns and your future together. Ask him directly about his reasons for not wanting to marry you and try to understand his perspective. Perhaps there are underlying issues or fears that are causing him to hesitate. However, if he is unwilling to discuss the matter or continues to avoid the topic, it may be a sign that he is not committed to the relationship and it’s time to reassess your priorities.

Ultimately, you need to prioritize your own happiness and well-being. If marriage is important to you and your boyfriend is unwilling to commit, it may be time to move on and find someone who shares your values and goals. It’s important to surround yourself with people who respect and value you, and who are willing to invest in a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

Shivendra Pratap Singh


High Court Lucknow